GUIDELINES FOR MENTEES AND THEIR MENTORS
IN WAKING DOWN IN MUTUALITY
For Supporting Fullness of Opportunity and Safety in the Mentoring Period

  1. The mentee-mentor relationship has been designed as a support to ease the student's approach to the work of Waking Down in Mutuality. Mentors also then enjoy the opportunity to share their developing understanding of the transformative process. This relationship has proven invaluable for mutually supporting growth in both parties.
  2. A mentee, in meeting with a mentor, is meeting with a person who has awakened to the second birth and who is on their way to deeper understanding and further stabilization in conscious embodiment and mutuality.
  3. However, the mentor is not yet a teacher. Therefore, the mentee needs to have regular meetings with teachers, who are further along in the second life and more experienced in living, teaching, and transmitting this way. Teachers bring more personal integration, and have been formally trained over time to hold and guide the mentee with greater depth and skill.
  4. For this reason, mentees are requested to have a session with a teacher every two or three sessions they have with their mentor, or, at a minimum, one time per month. Mentors are asked to remind mentees of this requirement to meet with their teacher.
  5. Though mentors are not teachers, they are important members of the aspirant's support team. They help hold and nurture students in much the same way as older siblings might with their younger brothers and sisters. Mentors are uniquely suited to share their understanding and experience from a close range, as they have more recently passed through the beginning levels of awakening and practice. They can really help mentees "learn the ropes".
  6. Mentors do not teach or administer therapy, suggest techniques, or give advice. They hold, reflect, empathize with, deeply listen to, and honor the wholeness of the student.
  7. Mentors will help students build their support team, including teacher and peers, and will help the students find out about sittings and other offerings and materials as appropriate.
  8. Mentees are invited to make a $5--$10 donation for each mentoring session to the IAM Scholarship Fund or to a local scholarship fund as a means of acknowledging the energy exchange. Unless given other information, mentees should make their checks payable to the Institute of Awakened Mutuality (IAM), 5530 NE 122nd Ave., #B302, Portland, OR 97230. For questions or to pay by credit card, phone Juliet at 503-252-2898, or email wakingdown@earthlink.net.
  9. During the mentee's "due diligence" period, they may want to connect with different mentors, and with any and all teachers they are drawn to being with. They are encouraged in time to settle on a mentor and a teacher who best suit them in order to deepen in their awakening process. During this period a student ideally would be attending many sittings and have exposure to several teachers to get the fullest rounded picture of this work.
  10. Mentees and mentors are encouraged to be clear with their support relationships. If a mentee is feeling that the relationship with the mentor is not going well or is coming to a close, and they are feeling they would like to change to another mentor or to stop being mentored, they are invited to bring this up with their current mentor and have a clear understanding or closure with the mentor before leaving or moving to another mentor. This serves the honoring of the relationship. Mentors will also talk with mentees if they feel the relationship is not working well or changes need to be made.
  11. Mentor-mentee experience will be shared under the following conditions:
    1. Mentors will check in with their supervising teachers regarding the progress of mentees and of their own work in relationship to the mentee. Mentors will keep the strictest confidence, giving only the level of information needed for safety and guidance.
    2. Mentors may also share their experience of their mentoring work with their mentor peer circle-excluding names and identifying details.
    3. Mentees are likewise encouraged to share significant aspects of their work with both their teachers and mentors so that the support team and the mentee can all be on the same page regarding the mentee's work and experience in Waking Down.